being sexually and socially oppressed, justgirlythings
Oh wow. This is powerful stuff.
I was mucking around with Audacity, listening to songs in reverse. For the fun of it, I put on everyone’s favorite song, Blurred Lines. And shockingly, I heard something I had never expected to hear. Robin Thicke was fooling us this whole time. He wasn’t trying to be misogynistic, he wanted us to listen closer to the song and understand that he in fact does believe his lady partner needs to be treated with the utmost respect.
You might find it VERY hard to believe, but I implore you to listen very closely (with headphones if you can, because it can be hard to hear). The message I’m talking about comes in around the 30 second mark.
this was beautiful
i love this post so much
… slow claps
God damn it Misha
This post destroyed me.
When [an abusive man] tells me that he became abusive because he lost control of himself, I ask him why he didn’t do something even worse. For example, I might say, “You called her a fucking whore, you grabbed the phone out of her hand and whipped it across the room, and then you gave her a shove and she fell down. There she was at your feet where it would have been easy to kick her in the head. Now, you have just finished telling me that you were ‘totally out of control’ at that time, but you didn’t kick her. What stopped you?” And the client can always give me a reason. Here are some common explanations:
"I wouldn’t want to cause her a serious injury."
“I realized one of the children was watching.”
“I was afraid someone would call the police.”
“I could kill her if I did that.”
“The fight was getting loud, and I was afraid the neighbors would hear.”
And the most frequent response of all:
"Jesus, I wouldn’t do that. I would never do something like that to her.”
The response that I almost never heard — I remember hearing it twice in the fifteen years — was: “I don’t know.”
These ready answers strip the cover off of my clients’ loss of control excuse. While a man is on an abusive rampage, verbally or physically, his mind maintains awareness of a number of questions: “Am I doing something that other people could find out about, so it could make me look bad? Am I doing anything that could get me in legal trouble? Could I get hurt myself? Am I doing anything that I myself consider too cruel, gross, or violent?”
A critical insight seeped into me from working with my first few dozen clients: An abuser almost never does anything that he himself considers morally unacceptable. He may hide what he does because he thinks other people would disagree with it, but he feels justified inside. I can’t remember a client ever having said to me: “There’s no way I can defend what I did. It was just totally wrong.” He invariably has a reason that he considers good enough. In short, an abuser’s core problem is that he has a distorted sense of right and wrong.
I sometimes ask my clients the following question: “How many of you have ever felt angry enough at youer mother to get the urge to call her a bitch?” Typically half or more of the group members raise their hands. Then I ask, “How many of you have ever acted on that urge?” All the hands fly down, and the men cast appalled gazes on me, as if I had just asked whether they sell drugs outside elementary schools. So then I ask, “Well, why haven’t you?” The same answer shoots out from the men each time I do this exercise: “But you can’t treat your mother like that, no matter how angry you are! You just don’t do that!”
The unspoken remainder of this statement, which we can fill in for my clients, is: “But you can treat your wife or girlfriend like that, as long as you have a good enough reason. That’s different.” In other words, the abuser’s problem lies above all in his belief that controlling or abusing his female partner is justifiable….
|—||Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men (via seebster)|
I love how Hans is all subtle and Anna just CRASHES into him.
Does Anna even know how strong she is? I mean, she hit a wolf away with a lute. She just batted it away like it was nothing. And then she punches Hans flying off a boat. He arches. Arches.AND LET’S NOT FORGET SHE JUST ACCIDENTALLY THROWS A BUST FAR AWAY LIKE IT’S NOTHING. HOW STRONG IS THIS GIRL?People also forget that she pulled kristoff up a cliff and pulled a tree down to hit marshmallow in the face… this girl
Anna born with superstrength and her while life her parents just told her she was clumsy and ordinary. They didn’t want to deal with another weird superpowered daughter.
Headcanon accepted! Anna has super strength and Elsa has Ice Powers. They’d make a great crime fighti- wait…haven’t we seen that before?
HEADCANON DEFINITELY ACCEPTED NOW
Strength? Ice? SIBLINGS? Guys, you’re missing a thing:
Do you wanna throw the Mjolniiiiir? Or cross the Bifrost to Midgaaard?
A Civil War Hits London, This Shocking One Second a Day Video Shows How it Destroys a Little Girl’s Life
That is powerful.
DON’T EVEN FUCKING GET ME STARTED JACK CHURCHILL. TOO LATE NOW. THE GUY SIGNED UP FOR A COMMANDO AIR DROP BECAUSE” it sounded fun”. HE CONSIDERED CARRYING A SWORD INTO BATTLE MANDATORY, BUT HE DIDNT USE SOME PRISSY LITTLE PARADE SABRE. HE CARRIED FUCKING CLAYMORE. HE SHEATHED IT NEXT TO HIS BAGPIPES & ENORMOUS TANK SIZED BALLS. HE WAS CAPTURED ONCE. FOUND IT A BIT BORING SO HE LEFT. RECAPTURED, LEFT AGAIN. WALKED ALL THE WAY BACK TO BRITISH LINES TO FIND THE WAR HAD ENDED. HIS REACTION?”oh bugger”
He used a longbow too.
when he was captured the Germans found him playing god save the queen on his bagpipes
There’s too much. Have a link!
He was also a surfer.
We must all aspire to be as “Mad” Jack Churchill
Only guy in WWII to have a confirmed longbow kill. Bow down to this guy.
This is the most awesome thing I’ve read in a long time.